Smart women must understand men's unspoken rules in love

Girlfriend
1. Don't blame him for taking every game seriously.
Boys always put themselves in a competitive environment, a typical example is driving. Girls are the ones who drive their own lanes and never run red lights, and boys are the ones who overtake at every opportunity. Girls drive to safely get themselves to their destinations, while boys drive to leave the cars that set out with them behind.
The same is true for playing computer games. According to a psychologist's survey, the five requirements that boys have for girls are: 1. Sex; 2. Attractive appearance; 3. Feeling of being admired; 4. Being able to play together; 5. Helping one's career. If he likes a certain game, and you don't blame him for being too involved, but try to show enthusiasm, he will include you in the category of being able to play together, and his liking for you will double.
2. A boy who loves you will play silent in front of you, while a boy who doesn’t love you won’t even give you silence.
Girls think that if he loves them, he should express his love and passion every minute. They can't understand why he is so quiet and silent when they are together. There are two reasons why boys are silent when they are in love: 1. They are born like this. When they are with you, they will occasionally be distracted and miss the loneliness and calmness when they are not in love. He feels that the long-term intimacy with you makes him unable to find himself, so he wants to be alone for a while. 2. He is in trouble and has something to solve. This is the time for him to lick his wounds and accumulate strength to deal with the problem. When he finds a way, he will come out by himself.
Don't bother him at this time, and don't argue with him about whether you don't love me because you don't talk to me. Just find something you like to do. Generally, after 20 minutes to an hour, he will start to miss the sweetness of you being by his side and take the initiative to come out. If a boy doesn't love you, he will run away and won't even give you the chance to face his silence.
3. Never negotiate with a boy. Just because two people love each other doesn’t mean they can talk it out.
If you want to know how two people who obviously love each other can break up, just watch the movie "Gone with the Wind". Watching the argument between Scarlett O'Hara and Rhett Butler, you will understand that you should never negotiate with a boy. Boys and girls speak different languages, especially when two people are holding their breath, it is impossible to talk clearly. You just said "I'm very sad today", and he said "Do you blame me? If not you, who else can you blame?" The argument became more intense.
American psychologists say that boys and girls have six basic love needs. Boys need love in the form of trust, acceptance, gratitude, praise, recognition, and encouragement; girls need love in the form of care, understanding, respect, loyalty, consideration, and comfort. When there are disagreements, it is more effective to lean on his chest and say nothing than to argue. When he calms down, he will naturally understand your heart and take the initiative to adjust his pace with you.
4. What initially attracts men is a woman’s appearance, cuteness and coquettishness.
But if a man thinks about marriage, he doesn't want a little woman who can only act like a spoiled child. He wants a wife who can go through the ups and downs with him, who is strong and confident, and who has fun in life. Many women have a wrong idea that men like the kind of little women who are delicate and need to be held in the palm of their hands and protected. In fact, it is not true. Unless it is a very young boy or an immature man, he needs a woman who is more immature than him to show his masculinity. A truly mature man, when choosing a wife, never wants to marry a little woman who needs to be taken care of and cherished. He wants a wife, not a daughter. Because men are actually animals who lack a sense of security, and they may not be as confident in themselves as you see. From childhood to adulthood, their families have taught them to be strong, not to cry, not to be weak, and to be like a man. So they will not show their inner weakness and insecurity in front of you. But they are always worried that you marry them not because of themselves but for other reasons, such as money and housing. They are afraid that one day when they no longer have money and lose their jobs, will you still stay with him. So men are actually very insecure. He needs a wife who can go through the ups and downs with him, who is strong-hearted and tolerant. He knows that only such a person can allow him to truly struggle and live without any scruples.
5. Will a man lead you towards "sex"? Absolutely.
All men know that if he convinces a woman that their relationship has the potential to develop in the long term, she will be more likely to go to bed with him and be more engaged during sex. They will do some very cunning things. For example, they will tell you that his mother wants a daughter or prefers girls. Or they will tell you that he bought a new house and ask you to help him choose the decoration plan. Then the woman is likely to surrender immediately. Whoever is captured first loses first. Men understand this very well. Once you go to bed with him without thinking, you will be easily taken advantage of by him. Some men even remind you in advance or afterwards not to surrender too quickly. ----- You will think he is a good man. It is your own fault. Very wrong. He is just reminding you that he does not want to take responsibility. When he puts on a saintly face to educate you, it is time to leave you without looking back.
6. Men are weaker, more stingy, and more childish than you think.
I used the word "imagined" because women are usually good at imagining men to be taller, braver, more generous, and more assertive than themselves. I can tell you responsibly that this is all an illusion. You will understand when you have a son. When I was a child, boys like to play a game together, which is to slander each other and see who can't stand crying first. For example, boy A said: Your mother has a pig face, and boy B said: Your father looks like Wu Dalang. They use mutual attacks to resolve crises. If a boy cries because of this, he will win the title of "crybaby" among boys from then on, which is a great insult to a boy. But such a game will never happen among girls, and if a girl cries, others will be tolerant and comforted to the maximum extent. So when encountering problems, men usually defend themselves by attacking others, and women usually use tears. But this does not mean that men are more psychologically able to accept setbacks than women. On the contrary, they use attacks because they can't accept setbacks, and attacks show that they don't accept them. Tears mean that they endured silently. So don't think your man is so generous and strong. On the contrary, they don't like you to argue with them in a crying way. In their eyes, this is simply unreasonable.
7. Men all like to look at sexy beauties, but they just like to look. The word sexy is never considered by men when they choose to marry a wife. Of course, they may marry a very sexy wife and live happily, but they will never marry her just because she is sexy.
Many girls mistakenly believe that men like sexy beauties. Then they tie fishnet stockings on their radish legs and open their necklines below the diaphragm according to what is written in some magazines, and go on a date with their boyfriends, thinking that showing a little cleavage can make their boyfriends crazy.
Little do you know that this behavior will immediately make men put you on the list of just playing around. No man wants to see his wife showing her cleavage on the street. Really. Even if you are very sexy.
Many people say: men love because of sex. This is a phrase used to trick innocent girls into bed. They make them think that by giving them sex, they can get their love. This is totally wrong.
Have you seen how many men fall in love with prostitutes? Prostitutes are all very sexy, so if you are a very sexy person, please protect your sexiness.
On the day you walk into the bridal chamber, your husband will cherish you as if he had found a rare treasure. Because your sexiness belongs only to him, not to everyone. If you are not sexy, don't worry at all. Men of 99% will not mind their wives' figures. Believe me, even if they often say that your belly is too fat or your chest is too flat, they just say that to hit your confidence. If you act very confident and don't mind what he says, he will immediately feel that he has married a beauty. Even if your figure is not perfect, it is still very happy to make love with you.

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Wife
1. A man will clearly distinguish between a temporary playmate and a wife he intends to marry.
Yes, the more mature and successful a man is, the more he has his own standards. He can even tell at first sight whether a woman is for sex, for love, or even for marriage. What are the standards for distinguishing this issue? In addition to the two we described above, there are many more, which we will continue to describe below. I just want to remind all women: men will clearly distinguish between temporary playmates and wives to be married. If you can't make him marry you, don't be his temporary playmate, otherwise you will get nothing. No man will spend too much time on a playmate, because just like when you buy clothes, you always yearn for the next one in the store. And a wife is like a house. For him, it is stable and reliable, and he needs to spend his emotions to arrange and pursue it.
2. A man will test every woman he dates to confirm whether she is worthy of marrying.
Unlike women who investigate men's past, men are more keen on testing women's present. They often play some tricks in order to get a comprehensive understanding of you. Because men know very well that everyone is good at disguising themselves in the early stages of love. He wants to know whether your inner self is crazier than the patients in the mental hospital or whether you can be compatible with him. For example, he will deliberately be late for a date and not greet you. If you scream, make a noise, and lose your temper with him, then he will think that you are not suitable as a marriage candidate. If you act calmly and say: "I am really worried about you, but I am glad that you came. Remember to call me next time you are late." Then he will think that you are reasonable and worthy of marrying home. Another example is that a man will deliberately look at your other girlfriend in front of you. If you immediately show jealousy or unhappiness on your face, he will try harder to stimulate you, such as chatting with that woman or complimenting her skirt. He knows that you will be very jealous, even burst into tears and lose your temper with him. But he just wants to irritate you. If you act calmly, without any jealousy, and even give the same compliments. He will think you are a confident, optimistic and independent woman. In fact, men's temptations are everywhere in the early stages of love, but most women have never noticed it. As for other temptation methods, we will give examples one by one in the following text.
3. Men usually won't consider marrying a woman who causes him trouble or is unpopular, no matter how attractive she is.
Women often fall in love with prodigals, and will not look back, regardless of the dissuasion of their family and friends. But a man cannot marry a woman who is not accepted by the people around him. You can not have sex, but you can not be a bad person. If you really can't get along with his group of bad friends. Then at least you have to let his family accept you. If you can't do these two points, then at least you have to be a pitiful little woman. Because from ancient times to the present, the only type of woman a man can elope with is this type.
4. A man doesn’t want to marry a perfect woman. What he wants is a wife who is interesting.
Due to the misleading information from society, magazines, and television, women usually think that if they are beautiful, rich, multilingual, and proficient in cooking, piano, and dancing, they will get all the respect and love they desire. Therefore, women usually regard those beautiful women who look sweet and gentle as the objects of envy. They think that they are the beauties that men want to marry the most. Yes, men do think so at first. But when they return to reality, they find that if they meet a woman who is too perfect, too sweet, and too submissive, they will soon get bored. Therefore, the audience of beauty pageants are usually women themselves. Only a few stupid men will keep the TV on the beauty pageant channel. They would rather watch porn. When a woman puts on a smile, has all kinds of halos, and acts very happy, they already look very artificial. Everyone knows that the second place wants to strangle the first place in their heart, but they have to congratulate her with a smile. Only women will be moved to tears when they see such a scene. Men will only sneer. Therefore, when a woman dresses up as a "perfect" girl to date a man. She walked into the restaurant gracefully, and did not forget to adjust her skirt when she sat down. For dinner, she only ordered vegetables and fruits that were nutritious, and said, "I can't eat too much." She tried to smile appropriately and avoid making chewing sounds. She would ask if she could go to the bathroom halfway through her meal, and when she came back, her makeup was perfected again... So... when she sat down to eat fruit again, she had already been labeled "temporary" by the man sitting opposite her. He might have sex with her, but the relationship would go downhill afterwards. Why? Because she was too contrived. He began to be wary and wanted to figure out what kind of woman she was. What was her real motive. Usually his intuition would tell him that she was just putting on a show to please him. Just like those beauty pageant champions to the judges. In private, she might be a shrewd or crazy woman. And she never confessed herself to anyone. Their relationship would never go any further. Because he would think, "This woman always needs attention, and I will never satisfy her." ;

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Some unspoken rules that women may not know
1. Unless he is blind, he will always be a visual animal.
For various reasons, maybe to get you, maybe because of inferiority complex, afraid that his woman is too beautiful to control, or he truly loves your pure and beautiful heart, maybe he will declare that he doesn't care about appearance, you are always the most beautiful. Nonsense! Unless a man is blind, he will always love beautiful women. Walking on the street, he will definitely look at long-legged beauties instead of aunties buying vegetables. If you give up the pursuit of beauty, then men will also give up the pursuit of love. It is so cruel, even saints are the same. After all, it is not a loss for you to make yourself beautiful, right?
2. No man doesn't want to get married, he just doesn't want to marry you.
There is no man who does not want to get married, because for men, starting a family and building a career is a system to establish social identity. For men who are power-hungry animals, there is never a question of "whether to get married or not", only the question of "who to marry". So, if you and a man have entered the marriageable stage, and he is reluctant to express his position, don't doubt that you have done something wrong. The problem is him. The man does not want to marry you, but he is unwilling to admit it. As for the reason, first, he is not willing to take responsibility. He will say, honey, why don't we just be together, why do you care about that piece of paper? In fact, he cares about that piece of paper the most, because with that piece of paper, he must take on the responsibility of the family, and the responsibility of both families, and he doesn't want to. Second, he doesn't want to lose the whole forest. If a man marries you today, then when he goes to work tomorrow, he will lose the position to tease the new female colleague, and he doesn't want to. Third, the most important thing is that he doesn't love you enough. Don't mention how many years you've been with him, or how long you've lived with him, once you break up, he can always get married within half a year. All those excuses for refusing marriage that he had more hair on his legs are gone. So don't dwell on what's wrong with you. For a man who doesn't even have the sincerity to get married, we should be smarter and just play around.
3. Before marriage, everyone is equal.
The world is treacherous, my dear lady! You also said that he is good in every way and you are attracted to him. Are other women blind or foolish? You may still be reserved and calculating the time and frequency ratio between answering the phone and agreeing to a date, but other women have already taken action! Do you plan to be passive and tolerant forever? You won’t die if you take the initiative, but you have to be proactive and beautiful, as if you are passive. You are only responsible for creating opportunities, and the performance and confession should be left to him! As for getting married with a baby, well, you can find out by reading the entertainment news. There are often female stars who successfully marry high-quality young men and soon have babies. Do you really think this is a coincidence? Accidentally getting pregnant and then getting married is a sure-fire way! If you have chosen the right person, getting married with a baby is not a problem. Anyway, as long as the goal is achieved and the two of you are happy, that’s enough.
As for the order, who cares?
4. Generosity is not love, stinginess is.
Oh, good girl, you have fallen into the trap of men: he asks you to be generous, he asks you to trust, he gives you a high hat of a good wife and a good mother, if you really wear it, you will become an idle wife and a cold mother, with no place to complain. What freedom does a man want? When he really loves a woman, what is freedom? He will offer you freedom with both hands, begging you to give him the shackles of love. The word stingy must be invented by men, because he wants to have fun, he wants to be surrounded by people, and he doesn't want to carry a cross, so he says you are stingy, making you think you are really wrong. What's the point of drinking tea and chatting with an ex-girlfriend? Is there any woman in the world who doesn't mind this? I don't believe it. Drinking tea, eating, and chatting about past love, there are no waves or ripples in a man's heart? I don't believe it. The more a good woman hypnotizes herself to trust him, the more serious the injury may be in the end. In fact, it really doesn't have to be so great. Stop pretending to be generous, face up to your own needs, stop putting yourself in a difficult position, suppressing yourself, hiding secretly, and being unhappy. What's the harm in being a little stingy? Besides, if he really loves you, he will first consider whether you are happy or not. You will be the first person he respects. He will not waste time with other girls without any distraction. He will always think about you.
5. Giving a bad man a chance is tantamount to seeking death.
Good men will not steal other people's walls, so even if they love you and watch you cry in the arms of bad men, they are also gentlemen and keep their distance from you. If you don't leave bad men, how can good men have a chance to get you? Some things can be forgiven, such as smelly feet, putting too much salt in the dishes, and forgetting to buy you a gift. But some things cannot be forgiven. Repeated deliberate cheating, ignoring your feelings, and trampling on your self-esteem. Giving bad men opportunities again and again will only magnify their appetite. If a man shamelessly hurts you, let him go. Then, leave the opportunity to someone who deserves your love. A woman will inevitably be stupid once in her life, but it's okay after being stupid. You learn to be smart, and smart people will appreciate you and love you.
6. An old lover is just a packet of instant noodles.
He has made the best choice for him, hasn't he? Your meaning to him has become a pack of instant noodles. If you want, he can soak you and eat you when he is hungry to solve the problem. You are disposable garbage and he will never miss you. Stop fantasizing. Not everyone has the same noble attitude towards love as you. If you really can't let go, you might as well take this as an opportunity to perfect yourself. Make yourself more perfect. You can write down what is not good about you, so he doesn't love you anymore, and then improve them. For example, if your legs are thick, ok, go to the gym, do Pilates, and half a year later, when you have sexy and perfect calves, you will forget the original intention of your fitness and forget his appearance as well.