I have fewer orgasms because I have more tricks

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      In our relationship, my husband and I always try out a lot of different positions, from foreplay to afterplay, and every process involves a lot of steps. Gradually, even though my husband tried hard every time and kept adding steps, I was too familiar with it all. I knew what he was going to do and how to do it before we even started. The more I expected, the more disappointed I became, and we almost never achieved it.

Your problem is that you view achieving orgasm as the sole purpose of sex. If you treat it simply as a physical indulgence, without any spiritual connection or emotional overtones, then sex becomes a mere exercise in technique, easily leading to the frustration of being disappointed the more you anticipate orgasm.

It's important to understand that orgasm is not only about physical satisfaction, but also about a psychological process. Sexual gratification can't be achieved solely through "tricks"; passionate affection can also achieve psychological satisfaction. For those of you who engage in excessive intimacy, "distance creates beauty." You should focus more on your partner's inner connection and spiritual connection, rather than using sex as a tool to satisfy each other.

Perhaps your steps are too routine, demystifying sex for both of you. In fact, every time you have sex, there should be some variation in the timing of foreplay, the location of sensitive areas, and the surroundings. Try to break up the routine and keep things fresh. This will make it easier for both of you to reach orgasm.

At the same time, you should pay attention toSexual techniquesForeplay is not just the husband's job. Although men are more easily aroused, it does not mean that foreplay is completely unnecessary. You should sexually stimulate your husband appropriately, but you should grasp the scale of stimulation and let your husband learn to control the time of his orgasm and strive to achieve synchronization.

Sexual caress (pre-coital massage) involves touching, holding, stroking, kissing, hugging, and rocking, known as the "Five Slows," to arouse both partners and promote sexual harmony. Mutual massage before sex is crucial for relieving tension and anxiety, achieving relaxation, arousing sexual desire, and gradually getting into the zone.

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Expert advice: Prepare three things before sex

If you want to do your job well, you must first sharpen your tools. The same is true for sex. A satisfying sex life requires adequate preparation.

Prepare your environment. Before going to bed, make sure you have three things within easy reach: lubricant, condoms, and a glass of warm water. You might think you're in perfect physical condition and don't need lubricant, but think about it: having lubricant on hand is harmless. The worst thing you can do is suddenly realize you need it during sex and can't find it. A glass of warm water helps you stay hydrated after intense sex, allowing for better after-play.

Be mentally prepared. First, you must be confident that you want sex and have high expectations for it. If you hesitate during sex or assume you don't have strong desire, you'll struggle to experience pleasure and may even hurt your partner's feelings. Secondly, take a deep breath before sex to help you let go of any worries, relax, and focus on your partner.

Finally, it's best to have a private conversation with your partner, such as discussing what position you'd like to take, or admitting that you're a little tired today and hope your partner will put in a little more effort.

Editor's Conclusion: Orgasm is not only about physical satisfaction, but also about a psychological process. Sexual gratification can't be achieved solely through "tricks"; passionate affection can also achieve psychological satisfaction. For those of you who engage in excessive intimacy, "distance creates beauty." You should pay more attention to each other's inner feelings and focus on spiritual connection, rather than using sex as a tool to satisfy each other.