"Sexual Amnesia"-the highest level of Platonic love!

　　

"Living together in the same room, but not in the same bed"—the term "Platonic love"—is often described as "abstinence." However, a new, more advanced version is emerging: a lifestyle known as intermittent "sexual amnesia" is upending tradition, even going so far as to define it as the ultimate Platonic love.

　What is "sexual amnesia"?

It's not complete abstinence. A "sexual fast" is a pause between the two of you, but it doesn't mean giving up physical contact completely. Gentle touches, sweet pillow talk, surprise notes, the intimacy of interlocking fingers, and kisses like first love are still allowed. The duration of "sexual amnesia" varies from person to person, but it shouldn't be less than 10 days or more than 60 days. Otherwise, it becomes permanent "sexual amnesia"! There are several benefits to couples practicing intermittent "sexual amnesia":

1. Maintain a certain distance so as not to get bored of being together day and night.

2. Enhance communication between couples and use this period to stimulate the romance that has been worn away by daily trivialities.

3. Reserve energy for after the “relief” so that every physical interaction can be fully enjoyed.

4. Stay away from diseases. From a medical perspective, excessive sexual activity is extremely harmful to your health.

　　"Sexual Amnesia" reality show

Don't think that intermittent "sexual amnesia" is just a fantasy. Many couples are already taking the lead and trying this kind of life. I interviewed two couples who live this way. Let's take a look at their personal experiences:

　　Actor: John (pseudonym) media professional

Tuesday, May 1, 2007 (cloudy)

I really don't understand why she came up with this thing, and gave it a very formal-sounding name. It just means we can't do it during the 1st, 3rd, 5th, and 7th months. After two months of perseverance, I finally got a long vacation, but it happened to be a "taboo period". What a shame!

Sunday, May 6, 2007, light rain

What's infuriating is that at the supermarket, she offered to buy "that" (condoms). I really don't understand. Isn't this the "taboo period" this month? And there's no use for them. But she said she was just preparing. I've gotten used to it now. It's only a 30-day thing, after all. I've also noticed that her temper has improved a lot, and she's become much more diligent. Could it be that she feels she owes me something? — Excerpt from John's diary

John: The first month or two were the hardest, but as a person, you have to learn to control yourself. Controlling my desires also helped me control my temper, and we argue less now.

　　Actress: Molly (pseudonym) mall salesperson

Saturday, May 5, 2007, cloudy

He got mad at me today because I've been insisting on this "no-go period" for months now. He thought, "Wouldn't it just pass if I just endured it?" I tried to reason with him, but he wouldn't listen. This would be a very good thing for both of us, but he just doesn't understand my good intentions. I'm so wronged...

Thursday, June 21, 2007, sunny

Today was the first time he took the initiative to pick me up from get off work, and I was so touched! I think this is thanks to the "taboo period" of almost six months of trying. He used to be so chauvinistic, not only did he not pick me up from get off work, he even asked me to go downstairs to buy a pack of cigarettes. Now, he finally knows how to care for others! — Excerpt from Molly's Diary

Molly: I learned about this lifestyle from a magazine. At first, I was afraid he wouldn't agree, but we persevered. I think the magazine's quote is spot on: couples need this kind of innovation in their lives.
Everyone should learn "intermittent amnesia"

I need to clarify that I don’t quite agree that intermittent “sexual amnesia” is the highest level of platonic love. On the contrary, I think this kind of life between husband and wife or lovers is the highest level of love.

I saw a survey that found 71% of people believe the primary purpose of finding a partner is to satisfy sexual needs. I'm quite surprised! In fact, the expectation of a life with a wife, children, and a warm bed still lingers in many people's minds, as if married life should consist of a monotonous routine of work, home, meals, and sleep, as if marriage is solely about procreation. Little do they realize that couples should have their own space, tender embraces, whispered sweet nothings, and even intermittent periods of "sexual amnesia"...

Of course, limiting intermittent "sexual amnesia" to sex alone is a one-sided view. There are many areas where couples can experience "intermittent amnesia": forgetting each other's unreasonable demands, forgetting each other's occasional negligence, forgetting each other's angry harsh words, forgetting each other's unintentional and unintentional hurt...

Everyone should learn to have "intermittent amnesia" to make room for those good memories.