Wife, can you please be on top during sex?

　　

       【169e.com】Judy is deeply troubled by her husband's love of changing positions. During sex, her husband seems to have changed and always does whatever he can to play tricks, which makes Judy, as a wife, feel annoyed. She doesn't understand why her husband, who is steady and decent during the day, seems to be a different person at night. Her husband claims that only in this way can he be "liberated", but Judy feels deeply depressed. Is this a perverted or mentally "compulsive" behavior?

      In fact, Judy has been married for 7 years, and her husband is 36 years old this year. For men of this age, there will be some changes in sex. Can they still get orgasm or satisfaction in sex? Can the wife enjoy the same pleasure? And what kind of posture is it? These are the key points we should discuss.

Age is a very important factor in the quality of sexual intercourse between couples. The timing of erection of a 36-year-old man is much worse than that of an 18-year-old man. When a husband starts to make love, he is on top. After the erection, in order to maintain the duration, he may turn to the bottom. This may be because the couple has a tacit understanding to change positions. If it lasts for about 20 minutes, they may also face each other sideways, so there are 3 postures, and just with these changes, some women imagine that their husbands are doing whatever they want, or even not caring enough about themselves. Therefore, the proud work of one person may be unbearable in the eyes of the other. The husband's behavior during sex cannot be regarded as abnormal, but it is just a manifestation of lack of communication between the two parties, so that they cannot share the pleasure of sex.

      If only the husband feels enjoyment, but the wife feels bored, over time, it will cause discord between the couple and even sexual dysfunction. However, on the other hand, some wives are too conservative and only hope to "get by with one trick or two", which also becomes the main reason for the husband to become tired or even lack sexual interest in long-term marriage life. No matter how good the relationship between husband and wife is, it is still necessary to "liberate" some concepts. Because men's ability to control erections will be discounted when they reach a certain age, they should be able to talk about anything, whether it is changing positions or changing places, as long as they don't change "people". I read an article titled "Women say, "Can I be on top?" In fact, in sex, "Can you please be on top?" is really the voice of many men.

According to a survey conducted in Taiwan, the "man on top, woman on bottom" sexual intercourse position places a greater burden on the male heart than the "woman on top, man on bottom" position. If a man adopts the "man on top, woman on bottom" position for intercourse, his heart rate increases to 127 beats per minute, 17 beats more than the "woman on top, man on bottom" position. In terms of oxygen consumption, the average level before sexual intercourse is 3.7 to 4.5 liters per minute. When the "man on top, woman on bottom" position is adopted for intercourse, oxygen consumption increases by 40%. Therefore, when a man wants the woman to be on top, it is sometimes a hint that he feels a little tired. When a man reduces physical exertion, he can maintain an erection for a longer time during sex.

The woman on top position is a basic sexual intercourse position, which can also be evolved into different ways. When the woman is on top, the woman's legs can be placed on both sides of the man's body in a kneeling position, and the body can be upright, leaning back or lying on the man's chest, facing or facing away from the man; the upper arms can be placed in front of the man's shoulders or under his armpits on both sides, or supported on both sides when leaning back. The man can be half-sitting, half-lying or lying down, etc. At the same time, the man can touch the woman's breasts or clitoris or do a slight upward movement of the pelvis to increase sexual pleasure. Since the woman on top position can also bring so much novelty, it is reasonable for men to say "Please, can you be on top?"

In short, how to communicate is always a problem in sex, whether it is through body, words, eyes, or just guessing, in short, many things can be discussed. Unlike the busy world during the day, when night falls, the person around you is also changing, and you can hardly recognize him. In fact, in the world of sex, many times we have to face our true self, which is not necessarily a bad thing.

       Make your him last longer

When he reaches orgasm before you, and you are not satisfied with the duration of his erection, perhaps the following methods can help you enjoy more pleasure.

1. Use the "woman on top, man on bottom" position

You are on top, actively twitching, bumping and shaking, and controlling the strength, rhythm and swinging range. Let him be as passive and inactive as possible. After half an hour or even more than an hour, when you are already excited, you can return to the man on top position, and let him lead you to climax together.

2. Reduce the sensitivity of the penis

A more practical method is to use a higher quality but thicker condom. The thicker condom will help reduce the sensitivity of the glans penis. Another way to reduce the sensitivity of the glans penis is to use a special cream. This cream works by numbing the glans penis, which will keep it erect longer. Such creams can be purchased in sex shops.

3. Regulate your breathing to reduce sexual stress

Tell him to try taking slow, deep breaths before the climax, psychologically "turning off" the excitement and reducing some of the sexual pressure. If you repeat this procedure for a short time during intimacy, the customary 2-3 minutes of sexual intercourse will be extended by 2-3 times.

4. Use cold water to cool the scrotum

Before sex, help him wet his scrotum with cold water (ice water is better) to make it contract, but be careful not to wet the penis. During sex, you will feel that both his hardness and duration have been significantly improved. In addition, pausing sexual intercourse and pulling out the penis for 1-2 seconds will make both men and women feel more expectant.